1/ Found an iPhone lying on the ground as I was leaving work today.
— Jeremy Jacob (@jeremysjacob) March 28, 2014
An interesting thing happened to me last week. I found a white iPhone on my way home from work. I looked around to quickly see if anyone was looking around for one, but I didn’t see anyone who seemed to be looking around. The phone was locked, so I pocketed it and made my way home. Once home I checked the phone. There was a missed call and a couple emails. I started to look up how to return a locked phone to someone, as I was doing so a call came through. I picked up.
“Hello?”
“Hi, um, you have my phone?”
I replied that yes I did (I was talking on it) and that I’d like to return it. Could I meet him somewhere? He said a spot right around where I had found the phone. I biked over and returned the phone to a very thankful mother and son. As I was getting ready to leave, the mother offered me a small folded $20. I refused to take the money multiple times but she ultimately shoved it in my hand saying “I know it’s not much, but thank you.”
Returning an item without knowledge of a reward is a strange concept when you think about it. I did not see a posted sign offering a reward for this lost iPhone, so it had no bearing on my decision to either keep or return the phone. In fact, if I had been a purely rational, self-interested actor I would have kept the phone and sold it. The fact that I returned the phone means that I wasn’t looking to get anything out of the transaction except for some good karma.
I did a little digging in the concept of the reward and quickly found that etiquette, one of my pet interests, had something to say about the matter. (Recently a friend of mine let me borrow the literal book on the subject, Etiquette, which I highly recommend.) I did a little digging as to what it says on the subject and, well it depends.
But I don’t think it should. The reward is not something that should be expected in our society. Making a good faith effort to return a misplaced item should be the norm. It makes sense from looking at it from an Utilitarian perspective: for most people the gratification from returning an item far outweigh the search costs to find the rightful owner, whose utility will be greatly increased by the transaction.
9/ Returning lost valuables should just be the norm. There should be no rewards.
— Jeremy Jacob (@jeremysjacob) March 28, 2014
So, next time you find a missing item and return it to the owner out of good faith try your hardest (barring any physical violence) to refuse any reward. Tell them that as a way to pay it forward they can do the same when they find a missing item. That will be how we’ll build a society where doing the right thing is the norm and not something that has to be rewarded with anything beyond a profuse thank you.
Comments or questions? Send them to me @jeremysjacob